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Thanksgiving Fresh!

I’ve been struggling with the budget at home lately. We have a lot of work that needs to be done on the house we are currently in, and none it will be cheap! We are blessed to have all we have, but the things we are facing require us to SAVE! Keeping that in mind, I was getting so discouraged about wearing the same old outfits that I have been wearing since last year to family gatherings this week. I know what you all are thinking: you blog about clothes!?! I do blog about clothing and fashion from time to time, but that doesn’t mean I spend a fortune on it. Also, life changes just as the seasons do. There are seasons in mine and my hubby’s life where we are able to spend more and do more. In this season, we are saving to finally remodel our house and to make some other changes.

So, as I went on with life thinking of various ways to put new spins on what I already had in my closet, I found myself in the right place at the right time. I had a meeting in another city for my job, and afterwards I found myself with about 30 to 45 minutes of time before my next meeting that day. So, I drove in route to my next location, and noticed a Cato’s Fashions. I’ve got a few minutes, so why not stop?! And, I’m glad I did!

I’ve been sleeping on Cato’s for a long time. I think I went in one day about six months ago in search of a specific item, and came out empty handed. I just began to pass them by from that point on. Sorry Cato’s, but we are definitely friends again!

I actually bought 4 items, and links are below. However, I only took pictures for my favorite two items. I will be putting both of these dresses on at some point during the Thanksgiving shuffle.

This Faux Suede Midi Dress was on sale in store for $14.99! It was perfect in every way! The material stretches, and it gives… just in case you were planning your outfit around your meals. I was so surprised, because the dress ran small. I am normally an 18/20. I had to get this dress in a 16. I paired it with some basic accessories. The earrings were on sale at Cato’s, as well – $1.99!



The next dress, I could not find on the website to save my life! Ladies, you may only be able to get this dress in store. And, I wish you luck, because this yellow/orange hued midi dress was only $9.99! I was in heaven when I put this dress on! It runs small. I am wearing a 16 in this dress, as well. If I find a similar dress in my searches, I will definitely share. The earrings are another sale item at Cato’s – $1.99!


Let me just tell you, I am one happy woman! I got two dresses, two pairs of earrings, an Asymmetrical Zip Pencil Skirt ($6.99), A Knit Sweater Duster (Similar Here – Vest), and Lace Up Flats – $7.99 for $50.00! To God be the Glory! Have an awesome Thanksgiving with friends and family! Keep checking out the blog! I plan to post over the Thanksgiving break!

*All photos taken by @VisualbyT

 

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Working It Out

Women have a built in ability to simply work things out. No matter how many hours are in a day, or how few resources are available, we seem to just work it out. So, I’m sure any woman can understand my frustration with not being able to simply… work out. Seriously, I have been a human yo-yo with my weight, eating habits, and workout discipline the last few months. The struggle is all too real!

I had begun to doubt my ability to be the strong woman I usually know myself to be. Standing in the mirror saying – “You are wonderfully and beautifully made in His image. You can accomplish and achieve all things, because your strength comes from above” – was no longer holding the same uplifting and motivational boost it once held before. My faith hadn’t changed, but my faith in myself and my ability to push through had definitely changed. Truthfully, I thought it was gone. I wasn’t able to find the motivation to do workouts at 9:00 pm or 10:00 pm like I had done so long ago.

*side note: yes, I say the statement above to myself almost every morning!

The reality is that life has changed for me. We never really think about how external changes effect everything going on inside. I was trying to work out and navigate life like I did years ago. That makes no sense, right? But, it made sense to me when I became frustrated about things not being as easy as before. Of course I could work out at 9 or 10 pm before… I wasn’t a wife and I didn’t have a little one who fights her 8:30 pm bedtime well until after 9:00 pm. I didn’t have the same responsibilities. My job did not demand extra hours of work outside of the traditional 9:00 to 5:00. Things have changed, and the reality is that I will probably never go back to the days of extreme workouts at all times in the night. But, that doesn’t change this one fact: I was not happy with where I was with my body.

Here’s the mantra, “I can and will change the things I can change.” There are so many things that I am not in control of, but these things… what I put in my mouth & how I treat my body… are things I have control of. Though I may not go hard in the gym daily, I do make sure I get some cardio in at least 3 to 4 times a week. If you are a curvy girl, I recommend getting some great workout gear that won’t have your thighs on fire. Recently, I invested in a couple of items from Lane Bryant’s Livi Active line. The signature stretch active knee shorts have been great! I hate that I always have to find some leggings or some biker shorts to wear under my traditional work out shorts to keep my thighs from chaffing and hurting after a jog. Plus, it’s hot outside! Who wants to workout in 90 degree plus weather in leggings?

My frustration has become a form of some acceptance. I accept that things in my life have changed for the good, and that means making decisions that work for me at this stage in my life. My time is limited, and if my workout happens while playing with my little one, it’s a win for the family. I may not burn 800+ calories, but I am being active and spending time with my family. My choices revolve around a greater goal than simply looking a certain way. My choices revolve around my happiness and the happiness of my two loves. I may not be happy with my body, but I’m happy with the choices I’m making to change it now. The results will not be as fast, but the results will be there when they come. I’m working it out for the season my life is in now.

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 LB Livi Active Knee Shorts – Get Them Here

Photo cred: My hubby – TJ Glenn @Goodfella_t1k

Jumping in 2016 – One Day at a Time

Another year is about to begin, and a lot of us are probably thinking one of the following:

  1. I totally failed at every resolution I made last year.
  2. This year is going to be my year!
  3. I’m going to get fit, eat less sugar, lose weight, workout more, drink less, cut out breads, and cut out any other food that would deprive your body of something that it may crave.
  4. New Year and a New Me!
  5. I’m going to spend more time with family and friends.
  6. I’m going to start a business or something!
  7. I don’t make resolutions
  8. New Year’s Day is just another day

I don’t think I got every single thought you all maybe having, but I think I covered most. The reality is that New Year’s Day is just another day, but is symbolizes so much more, because it seems to bring about a new beginning for most of us. It is the start of another 365 days for us to accomplish something big! This is true, but to accomplish something big, we have to do small things. Remember that each day is a new day, and can start the beginning of something big.

I wish each and every one of you peace and blessings this New Year. However, my hope is that each of you wake each day in 2016, and treat the new day as if it is the start of a new year. Each day you accomplish something good, leads you into the next with a more positive outlook.

The best way to bring in the New Year is to be the best and most stylish you, you can be! Start by looking into a super cute Jump Suit for your festivities tonight. I must admit, with a 2 year old, I will not be doing much this evening. However, this jump suit, would be my go to tonight! In fact, I may just wear it in our home, as the hubby and I sip champagne! I have loved this jump suit since I got it in the mail from Eloquii. I simply paired it with a belt that I have had for years, and the perfect outfit for a night out came together! Check out their other jumpsuits here: Eloquii Jumpsuits.

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Jump Close

Jump Multiple

Photo cred: My hubby – Terrance Glenn (@goodfella_t1k – instagram)

In the Midst of A Self-Hate Attack Storm with Nothing to Wear!

I was in the midst of a real rut last week, and felt like I had nothing to wear! I went to the closet and looked, and looked, and looked some more… I just kept flipping through each dress, skirt, shirt, blouse, etc. until I just gave up. I had to make a decision! Our baby girl will only sit quietly and watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse so long while mommy gets dressed in the mornings.

I was in a dark place, some of you may know this place, where you are feeling so down about your body and appearance that you just can’t see the good right in front of you. I only had nothing to wear because I was in the midst of a self-hate attack! It’s hard to pull out of a self-hate attack. How can you pull yourself out of something that you think is true in that moment? I felt like I didn’t look like the image of myself that I had idealized in my head. The funny thing is that I couldn’t tell you what image that was! I just kept looking in the mirror and thinking, “this looks horrible!”

The mind is a powerful thing. Your thoughts have the power to make you believe that you just aren’t good enough some days, and they have the power to make you believe you can take over the world some days! Normally, I have more days where I believe I can take over the world, than the days like the one I was having last week. Finally, I took a step back in the mirror to just see me. I had on a dress that I had worn earlier this summer. I looked back at a picture of myself with the dress on, and tried to see what made today different from a month or so ago… I had gained weight. I hadn’t noticed it in my day to day comings and goings, but I had gained about 15 lbs, and all of it seemed to be in my belly. So, the dress that once looked great, looked horrible because of my bigger belly.

I don’t know about you, but once I know the root of an issue, I can handle any problem! It was like my rut was over! I went back to my closet, picked up a black ASOS skirt that I loved, and just slid it over the dress to see what the end result would be. Like magic, my mood instantly changed and the day could go on! My belly was no longer the focus, and my outfit was complete – just in time too! I had a little munchkin standing at our bedroom door within seconds of the Hot Dog song ending.

I hate that I went to that place of self-hate with myself, because I am constantly trying to promote self-love and body confidence. I guess it was necessary for me to see something I needed to change. If being the best you, means re-shifting back to a more active and healthier you, then do it! I know that is the case for me. I have worked out on and off about 3 times a week, but I can’t say that everything I have put in my body has been in moderation… everything that I have put in my body has not been good, either! I’ve been feeding my body junk, and in turn I have been feeling less than myself. I know that I can change that feeling now, and simply slide a little black skirt over my troubles, until I get it back together!

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Spring Time Blues

I have been meaning to get back to blogging. I think my weekend a couple of weeks ago really made it impossible to not blog about some nice little go to items I have in my closet.

I did not get a chance to post my outfit for Friday night. Only because I didn’t make it to my friends gathering in time! I know, I know… horrible. But, in my defense, it ended earlier than expected. So, I did what any woman would do when an outfit doesn’t get seen. I put it on Saturday night for fun with family!


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I got this skirt from Forever 21 over a year ago, and it has been a go to ever since! It’s so comfortable, and it isn’t too long or too short. If Forever 21 can bring this back, I’m sure I’ll be the first to buy it again in every available color! So, since the skirt is no longer available, you can try the Knit Bandage Skirt – Forever 21 now available. It comes in blue, and looks just as cute! Plus, if you are on a budget, It’s only $9.90!

The tanks I have on are from Old Navy. Nothing special, just your average comfortable fitted tank. I have on a black one under the striped black and white tank. I just hate for my bra to show too much. So, wearing a black tank under the striped one helped to hide my black bra straps some.

I honestly think this will be my go to causal look for the summer. A nice fitted tank, body con skirt, a couple of cute jumpsuits, and a few maxi dresses. Those are the items I know I need in my closet in plenty for Spring and Summer.

The weekend didn’t stop there, and I’m so thankful I have friends that are constantly doing things in their communities. If it were not for my over achieving friends, I wouldn’t get invited to events like Salon De The’. I can’t speak one word of french, but I was definitely excited to support a Wesleyan sister and friend. I got a number of compliments on my blue dress. Honestly, this dress was just a very simple pick! I have really been living in a simplicity is best type of world lately. I pick items that go on easy, allow plenty of movement (remember I have a toddler now), and can transition from work to play with simple changes. This dress does exactly that!

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I picked this little blue dress up at JC Penny for only $21.00 (JC Penny Sleeveless Shift Dress)! Yep, that is absolutely correct! The back exposes the zipper, and looks great! Check out the link to the dress on JC Penny’s website to see! It only goes up to XL, but the dress gives. So, don’t doubt it before trying it on, if you have some extra curves.

I’m pretty sure everyone will be doing some variations of bright colors, prints, and whites. But, I think blue has chosen me for the spring and summer months!